When to let go?
Posted: Mon Nov 14, 2022 11:47 am
Our beautiful TNR buddy (Frankie) is suffering but I just can't let go. He is in renal failure and after a month of torturing him with the multiple meds he is not getting better. Everytime I think we should schedule the appointment for his release he tries being himself and comes to us for help that we can't provide. When we talk about his leaving the talk of how much he was loved comes up but doesn't help.
We got him at a local shelter 9+ years ago (he was 4) after losing two cats we thought we would never get over but he changed that for us and we poured our love onto him. About 6 months after getting Frankie a baby stray showed up a our daughters house so he also became a member of our family. His name is Jessie and for his 9 years he has never been alone. He has looked up to Frankie all his life and we're not sure how this will play out with him. Can't fret about that right now as we deal with Frankie's up coming future, basically there is none.
We've discussed getting Jessie a kitten to mentor but we are old and are pretty certain any kitten or young cat would out live us and end up lost, confused and heartbroken in a shelter. That is unacceptable to us as we've seen too many cats in that situation. We also know that getting an older cat won't work as Jessie is very, very territorial and howls at any cat that comes anywhere near our house.
We're trying to deal with all of this but the tears, guilt and pain override everything. I want to end his suffering but I'm too selfish to give him up knowing the pain will be even worse once he's gone.
Hoping someone can be empathetic to our plight and provide some insight to this awful part of loving our buddy.
We got him at a local shelter 9+ years ago (he was 4) after losing two cats we thought we would never get over but he changed that for us and we poured our love onto him. About 6 months after getting Frankie a baby stray showed up a our daughters house so he also became a member of our family. His name is Jessie and for his 9 years he has never been alone. He has looked up to Frankie all his life and we're not sure how this will play out with him. Can't fret about that right now as we deal with Frankie's up coming future, basically there is none.
We've discussed getting Jessie a kitten to mentor but we are old and are pretty certain any kitten or young cat would out live us and end up lost, confused and heartbroken in a shelter. That is unacceptable to us as we've seen too many cats in that situation. We also know that getting an older cat won't work as Jessie is very, very territorial and howls at any cat that comes anywhere near our house.
We're trying to deal with all of this but the tears, guilt and pain override everything. I want to end his suffering but I'm too selfish to give him up knowing the pain will be even worse once he's gone.
Hoping someone can be empathetic to our plight and provide some insight to this awful part of loving our buddy.